by Reb Gutman Locks
An American yeshiva student brought his 16 year-old sister for Shabbos. She is in a modern seminary, and is as typical a teen as I can imagine. Even though she is very intelligent, mostly she likes to smile and be bubbly. This, she thinks makes the best impression, and then she will be a success. By the end of the evening, over and over again, I could see that she had absolutely no idea what life was about, and certainly no idea what she wanted to do with it, other than be a typical, smiling, Jewish seminary girl.
I told her, “Don’t just be a flower waiting for a bee. You have to do something to help. You have to make the world a better place and at the same time, help to support your family. Study some trade, or profession that is modest and practical. You could learn how to be a speech therapist, and help women who are recovering from strokes relearn how to speak.” She liked the idea very much.
It is not that teens are stupid. Practical information has to be given to them in a way that they can understand its importance