Tuesday, April 17, 2012

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Why is Caring Hard?

by Reb Gutman Locks @ Mystical Paths

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A friend asked, “Why is it hard to care for others?”

     The main reason it is so hard be concerned with others is that we are usually so wrapped up with our own problems that we do not pay attention to theirs. It’s like giving charity…if our needs are not yet taken care of, very few of us would be concerned with other people’s needs. But, if we are lacking something, we know how it feels, so this should make us even more sensitive to them.

     The ironic thing is, that almost always, giving to others brings the solution to our own problems! When we give charity, it brings blessings for a good livelihood. When we pray for others to find what they need, Hashem gives us what we need. So, if for no other reason than to open the door to our own blessings, we should concern ourselves with each other’s needs.

     But if you would ask a great person why he (or she) gave that poor man a dollar, he would not say, “To get ten back from Hashem.” He wouldn’t even say, “It’s a mitzvah,” although it certainly is. Most likely he would say, “Because the poor guy needed it.”

2 comments:

Yishai said...

Great post. Here is a relevant passage from Rebbe Nachman:

"You should be able to feel another person's pain in your heart - all the more so when many people are suffering. It is possible to know another person's pain and suffering yet still not feel them in your heart.

When many people are suffering, you should certainly feel their pain in your heart.

And if you do not feel it, you should knock your head against the wall: you should strike your head - your mind and intelligence - against the walls of your heart!

This is the meaning of the words: "Know this day and realize it in your heart ." (Deuteronomy 4:39) . You must bring the realization from your mind into your heart. Understand this well."

Sichot Haran #39

http://azamra.org/Essential/friendship.htm

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