Wednesday, February 23, 2011


When a Woman Puts On Tefillin

by Reb Gutman Locks @ Mystical Paths

image003 (17)(Photo – 19th Century Yemminite Jewish Man)

When a woman puts on tefillin, or wears a yalmulka (a man’s head covering) or tzitzit (a man’s fringed garment), her spiritual life becomes confused.

     I am not addressing the aggressive Jewish women who wear these objects just to show men that they cannot be told what to do.

     Here, I am addressing the sincere, but confused, Jewish woman who looks over at the men’s side of the synagogue, and sees men davening (praying) with tallises (prayer shawls) and tefillin, and thinks, “That looks so uplifting. I would like to increase my spiritual awareness, too.” So, she secretly takes her father’s or her brother’s tefillin and quietly wraps them on her arm. What happens to her?

     When a woman tries to fulfill herself with a man’s spiritual role, if she is “successful” she will pull herself away from the particular role that she was created to fulfill.

     Jewish men have certain needs that Jewish women do not have. For instance, a male can very easily become extremely excited just through his imagination. A woman requires more physicality. This is not merely a physical or an emotional characteristic since the physical and emotional reflect the spiritual.

     Women want to be wanted. This is a strong part of their makeup. Men do not particularly want to be wanted. Men WANT!

     Men are more competitive and aggressive by nature, so learning Gemora (Talmud) engages these characteristics. Competition and aggression are not primary needs for a woman.

     Given these differences, among many others, each gender has been given spiritual solutions to satisfy his or her needs.

     Tefillin do elevate the soul. So how does a woman receive this essential spiritual elevation? She receives it from her husband, and from her sons, when they put on their tefillin.

     A Jewish marriage is not two equal partners coming together to form a balanced partnership. A Jewish marriage is two halves coming together to form a single one. Each contributes his or her share, according to their nature and abilities so the whole will excel.

     It would not be unusual for a woman who excels in learning Gemora, and loves to put on tefillin, to want to forgo the bother of having children, because children would take her away from the spiritual things that she loves to do. Where would this leave the Jewish people? Not to mention those souls who are waiting to come into life through that Jewish woman.


  1. and rashi's daughters?

  2. Women do not need any of those superstitious outward shows that men use. We are already more connected to Shekinah than men will ever be. Period. Get it? Yep. Got it!

  3. the milui of tefilin = sarahs years 127 together = 707 tshuvah . A jewish woman unless she blemishes it has inner tefillin . Listen to the voice of your wife sarah . rashi her gift of prophecy was greater then avrahams. as for the previous comment of the jewish woman moses was and is as was david far more connected to the shechinah then miriam who spoke lashon hara on him or davids wives abigail and baatshevah

  4. Interesting theories you have about the differences between men and women. Unfortunately, they are wrong, and are not supported by any evidence whatsoever.

    Men who are upset by women wearing tefillin and tallitot are the ones who are spiritually confused. I hope one day you will see the truth.

  5. LOL Gutman, since it's a metaphor, strapping it on is irrelevant. But it does appear weird to see, no question.

    What about the mention to tzitzit in the Torah, it say's for the children of Israel. Last time I checked, are just men children (that could be debated all day long) of Israel or does that mean everyone. From the contest of the passage its everyone involved. Again, being we are accustomed to seeing men do so, again it would look extreemly weird to see women with such. But it's not forbidden by the Torah.

    Oh, sorry, I forgot that the rabbi's cherry picked a pasuk that 'the majority rules'. Instead of the entire passage dealing with not to be a false witness in a court of law when everyone else is lying we are not to follow along with the majority to do evil.

    You know how to stir up the pot, lol.

  6. there are many jewish women who are gilgul of men and men the gilgul of women part of the screwup pardon my french of this generation . Ideally a man should do mens things and a woman womens things, today ??????

  7. As a woman I disagree with almost all of the statements you make about women. I enjoy competition and I have an active imagination.

    Tefillin are in a different category than the other mitzvot you mentioned. As other comments here indicate, Rashi's daughters donned tefillin. While a woman needs to have a high level of holiness, purity and knowledge to do so, it does not necessarily mean she will forgo having children.

    I agree men and women have different roles, but we also live in a world in which women are learning Torah and excelling in areas of Jewish life that were almost unheard of for the past 2 millenia.

    I propose jumping on the train while keeping than Jewish law rather than throwing an object under the train itself.

  8. these women are intrested in torah because there intrested in other women ! thats why lesbianism isnt one of the 365 negative commandments its a chok shel goyim ! im not a muslim but jewish women be an aishet chayal thats your p[lace . volembe

  9. I agree a woman's place is an Eishes Chayil. However that refers to a woman's role, not to her personality. Nashot Chayil have a wide variety of personality traits, and I don't think they are accounted for here. It's a deep question to really say what truly distinguishes women from men.

  10. I read somewhere a good example about two functions in the body, the heart and lungs. They have different roles but they are both important in serving the body.

    We women have a very important job of raising the next generation. Together the husband and wife both fulfill their mission in this world. They raise their family with both intellect and kindness, being strong in both

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