Monday, November 08, 2010


Shepherding our Children, Or Not

One of the perennial odd stories that go around the Internet is a costume experience for a 5 year old boy in some part of the U.S.A.  Most young (non-Jewish) children dress up in costumes for the secularized celebration of Halloween at the end of the month of October.

This particular young boy decided he wanted a costume of his favorite cartoon character.  That character happens to be a slinky female semi-action character on the cartoon Scooby Doo.

So the big deal of this odd story was that this mother encouraged her son to go through with his desire and bought him the female-dress-costume of the character.

Why am I bothering with this shtuss?  The mother’s final statement of justification…

(The Mother: ) If my daughter had dressed as Batman, no one would have thought twice about it. No one.

And all I hope for my kids, and yours…is that they are happy. If a set of purple sparkly tights and a velvety dress is what makes my baby happy one night, then so be it. If he wants to carry a purse, or marry a man, or paint fingernails with his best girlfriend, then O.K. My job as his mother is not to stifle that man that he will be, but to help him along his way. Mine is not to dictate what is ‘normal’ and what is not, but to help him become a good person. I hope I am doing that.

And my little man worked that costume like no other. He rocked that wig, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

A generation of war led to a generation of tightly disciplined kids.  A generation of very tightly disciplined kids led to a counter-cultural rebellion of peace, love, and no discipline.

Now we’ve reached a generation of NO STANDARDS, where parents feel that merely defining what is NORMAL is WRONG.  But not to worry because we want him to be a GOOD PERSON, even if we can’t define what that is (because that would be defining normal, which is WRONG).

No discipline, you don’t have to work at it, no standards to keep things reasonable, moral, or headed in the right direction (just from past experience).  No absolutes for morality or what is right (or not).  Whatever we feel is “good” is good.  And if someone else doesn’t feel that way…well, what right do we have to impinge on their thinking?

Indeed, today the religious Jews are the counter-cultural revolutionaries.  With their standards and right and wrong business, with G-d and Torah and disciplines for life.  With being GOOD actually defined, helping others, giving charity, loving your neighbor.  With actual restrictions teaching one to control oneself and defining certain activities, foods, even certain speech as NOT GOOD.

Take a look where society is headed and make a choice.  Me, I’m going counter-cultural, I’m taking a stand.  And that itself makes one counter in this time.


  1. Pardon me whilst I vomit! Okay, I'm not a Jew nor a Christian nor a Muslim nor a Pagan, but I'm not exactly a "card carrying" Noachide. I'd call myself a HaShem Seeking Non-Jew, but ... "just another directionless Goy" will do, if you must slap a label on me.

    That said, I hate this time of the year with all the Pagan-Christian holidays (or unholy days, if you will).

    Here I am, a single father, trying like crazy to counter all the cultural trash that my son is being exposed to here in Goyville, USA. (Does America really have a culture? What does America actually cultivate? Think about it! No! On second thought, don't bother to pollute your brain cells with thinking about it. Anyways....)

    No, we don't (and pretty much can't) celebrate the Jewish Holy Days, so we end up doing nothing, while my family is subjected to my constant k'vetching about all the scum-sucking-Pagan garbage that my son is being exposed to - be it directly or indirectly.

    This story speaks exactly to the kind of idiotic garbage that's being spread here in Goyville, USA. I'M SICK OF IT!

    But, HaShem leaves me stuck here, so ... what can I do? His will be done.

    I have no culture of my own, no people and no traditions to take the place of this pile of garbage that HaShem has placed me in. It's not like a spray-can of "Jewish Lysol" is going to make this stink go away and relocation isn't an option or a luxury that I have. What's a Goy to do? :(

    Would that I had an insulated community to retreat to! I don't begrudge the Orthodox Jews their desire and ability to shelter themselves from the Goyim! I'd join them in a heartbeat, if I could. ::::heavy sigh::::

  2. gays are entitled to a merciful justice and just mercy. It's not enough to say, "Torah forbids homosexuality" if one does not also speak out against injustice, against hatred of gays, against the beating and killing of gays scapegoating of gays, even against unjust and hateful words. No matter WHO it is that utters them. To give over the Torah's teachings is not enough, we pray every day to fullfill all the words of the Torah's teachings WITH LOVE. Otherwise it is as if you are only giving over half of the Torah. The DIN half. Can anyone survive strict din? No religiouse person need say, " homosexuality is wrong" for at least a generation. Believe me, the gays know. They know that they are sinners and trash and filth deserving of death and ostricism and beatings and condemnation. They've been told by fanatic xtians that G-d hate's homosexuals. They know that a religious person might randomly shoot or stab them in their gay parade. They are called Sodomites by mistaken xtians even though the definition is wrong. Because of the SILENCE, the silence over the beatings, the taunting, the scapegoating, the hate, the injustice, directed at homosexuals...because of the SILENCE of people who could have spoken out, a loving mother is letting her son dress up as a female action heroine. I can think of worse things.


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